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On Strengths and Weaknesses

Do you get a lot of advise to work on your weaknesses and do your best to avoid them?
Do you forget about your strengths? Do you know your strengths?
Get a different point of view about yourself.

Do you really want to know about your strengths? You can right here.

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Self Confidence or Self Esteem?

The differences between Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence are subtle and they both affect our propensity for success or failure. So let us explore them a bit further.

Esteem or Confidence

What is the difference between the two?

Self Esteem

Self esteem is generally determined early on in our lives through guidance we get from our parents, family, teachers and caretakers. Later on in life this may come from our friends, co-workers and acquaintances. In general, self-esteem is built up by what others see in us and how they react to us. Children that have low self-esteem have adults around them that do not show positive reinforcement to the child in general. The child may be put down, or slighted, or blamed for things that are not in their control. Their opinions and actions are not valued or encouraged.

Whereas, children with high self esteem, have supporting adults around them that encourage them to express themselves and value their input.

Obviously as we grow up, we should be able to distinguish the low and high value interactions that we have with others and recognize what is beneficial for us and what is not. Yet frequently we are so dependent on others’ opinion of us especially if we suffer from low self esteem.

Test this with yourself. Is your self-worth dependent on what others say about you. If you surround yourself with people that value you, would that make a difference?

Self Confidence

Self confidence, on the other hand, is more of an internal validation for things that a person can do. If you are successful at sinking hoops on a basketball court regularly, you have self-confidence if you join a basketball game with strangers. Self confidence is based on the fact that you have been able to accomplish an act or a task successfully enough times that you don’t have any overwhelming doubt about yourself.

However, developing self confidence needs some self esteem. If self esteem is badly lacking, developing self confidence will be difficult and slow. If there is a good foundation of self esteem, then developing self confidence in different competencies is probable with practise. Having the self esteem allows one to fail enough times to develop the mental or muscle strength to eventually succeed at a particular issue.

On the other hand, if one suddenly loses the ability to do something that he or she was previously very good at due to an unforeseen circumstance in life, like an accident or loss of a loved one, the self confidence may disappear and it may negatively affect the self esteem a person had.

 

So while the two are related, we can see that differentiating between the two will allow us to better address the issues that affect us internally regarding success and failure.

 

We will explore other factors and issues related to our success and failure in later posts.

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Your Education

One of the critical needs of any business owner is a steady diet of educational material. The daily crunch of email, paperwork, accounting, employee issues, customer demands, orders, etc eats up so much of the time that by the end of the day you feel exhausted and well-used up. Even if you have absolute control of your time and you have systems in place to take care of things, do you still have time to educate yourself?

Jim Rohn once said, “Read a book a week for the rest of your life“. My immediate reaction to this was what a wonderful and great idea. No matter where you are in your life today, high school dropout or a multiple PhD, this advise is golden. In so many ways, reading a book a week can make a huge difference in your life.

Benefits

A few of the benefits that we get from reading a book a week:

  1. Starting with the purely physiological, getting new information into your brain on a regular basis changes your brain. It grows all the association links in your brain and provides you with a lot of alternatives when any subject comes up. This association process increases your brain capacity and grows with time. It is like gymnastics for your brain.  An interesting thing about the brain is that it is plastic. What that means, is when you stimulate it with new information and steadily feed it, it will grow to accommodate that information. It will actually create new pathways that become permanent as long as you keep exercising them. The more you exercise them, the stronger they become.
  2. Reading a book a week will definitely make you a more well-rounded person. You will have a lot of ideas and have many topics as conversation starters. You can become the reference for many people on many different subjects.
  3. You can grow your knowledge about your business directly depending on the books that you read. Choosing books related to your business or even choosing books about business will allow you to find different growth avenues to make your business successful to a drastically different level.
  4. Experience is great. But so is finding out about things that will let you seek out new experiences. When we get to know about a subject, we tend to seek the experience of that information. This will cause us to actively go about getting the experience. This adds to our gut knowledge and builds our repertoire.
  5. Reading in the subjects of your interest will undoubtedly intersect with other subjects that you may tangentially like. You will find that you will gravitate to them eventually and open yourself up to new knowledge that you wouldn’t have sought earlier. That will go on as you open up more and more subjects. In a few months or a year, you will find yourself with a richer set of information and a new zest for acquiring knowledge and experiencing activities.
  6. Having knowledge, and especially expanding your knowledge constantly, will provide you with options. When you have options you are in a lot better psychological state when you are faced with any difficulties or problems. That is always a good thing to have in your life.
  7. Knowledge builds confidence. Confidence gives you energy and growth paths. Growing constantly keeps you younger, fresher and with a thriving sense of optimism. Great things to have at all times.

So there you have 7 benefits of reading a book a week. I am sure you can think of more. Let me know in the comments below what you think.

I know the next thing that will come up.  I don’t have time to read a book a week.  My next post will address that and provide you with some suggestions on how to overcome the time obstacle.

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